Episode 52 - with Jamie Lee Curtis - Lisa Birnbach's Five Things That Make Life Better on July 5th, 2019

If you’ve been on vacation these last few weeks, you may not have heard the story about the journalist who was sexually assaulted by a businessman 23 years ago and told only two people.

That journalist was my friend E. Jean Carroll.  The businessman was Donald Trump. 

I was the friend E. Jean telephoned from the street outside of Bergdorf Goodman, her favorite  department store.

Reliving my friend’s agony was tough this week; reading the nasty and cowardly things that anonymous strangers posted to her made me ill, but I still came away with 5 Things that made life better.

And since it’s our one year birthday, a celebration is in order. So that’s why I asked my friend Jamie Lee Curtis to join me on Episode 52. She’s my gift to you. Click the link above to listen to our discussion.

E. Jean Carroll

For a full list of Sexual Assault resources go to: https://www.rainn.org/national-resources-sexual-assault-survivors-and-their-loved-ones

or

Rape and Sexual Assault - Safe Horizon - https://www.safehorizon.org/get-help/rape-and-sexual-assault/

Lisa and Jamie circa 1989

The 5 Things that made Lisa’s life better this week.

1. Support is support is support….. It’s not quite love, but the enormous outpouring of gratitude towards Carol, the other corroborator and me made my heart swell.  I heard from people from every era of my life, and they were so touched and grateful to have my simple back up.  It was as if everyone was E. Jean last week

2. Friends who helped me make the difficult decisions about the media. I was overwhelmed by the options, and unsure how to proceed, and if I wanted to proceed. Jamie, Maria, Shelley helped me tremendously. Also thanks to Susan, Diane, Star, Shpresa, and my Exhibits.

3. Help.  If you have a friend who is abused or raped, or you yourself are dealing with sexual violence, please know there are lots of resources for you:   National Sexual Assault Hotline Call 1-800-656-4673  Available 24 hours everyday.

4. Get away if you can. We had long standing plans to visit our friends Shelley and Dennis on Long Island, and the timing couldn’t have been better. We went to the beach, which as you might recall, is my favorite place to be. And Saturday night we enjoyed a sunset that looked like it could have been painted by Tintoretto.

5. Honesty.  It’s not the best policy; it’s the only policy. When you are truthful, you don’t have to calculate about what to tell or say or worry about keeping your story straight. There are no alternatives. It’s easy. It’s the right thing to do.

And the 5 Things that make Jamie’s life better along with a poem that she wanted to share:

1.    Sobriety

2.    Health care

3.    My healthy and wise children, and man

4.    Creativity - High 5

5.    Her rescue dog, Runi

Episode 51 - with Shannon Watts - Lisa Birnbach's Five Things That Make Life Better on June 28, 2019

I’m just back from a quick trip to California to see Exhibit B for her birthday.  Usually when I visit Los Angeles, I try to see as many friends as I can, going for three meals a day in a frenzy of catching up overeating and overdrinking.

Instead, I was mostly velcro’d to my exhibit and saw her friends and overate and overdrank with them.

The point is my appetite for life experiences is huge, but I just can’t do everything.  Is that a function of age, of resignation, of exhaustion? 

 I’m going to say it’s a function of maturity.  An awareness that there will be a next time and I can have different priorities on another trip.  If I didn’t see you, I’m sorry.

I am delighted that Shannon Watts is our guest today. She is a hero to me, for being a concerned citizen who actually did more than tsk to herself or preach to the converted. On the day of the tragedy of the Sandy Hook mass murder, this mother of five decided to organize other moms to advocate for stricter laws that would prevent more gun violence. Seven years later, Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America has hundreds of thousands of volunteers who’ve helped change laws all around the country. Her new book is called Fight Like a Mother; How a Grassroots Movement Took on the Gun Lobby and Why Women Will Change the World.

Photo credit: Chris Langford Photography

First, the five things that made my life better this week:

1). The movie “Gloria Bell” which I saw on a plane last week.  It’s a remake of a Spanish language Chilean film called “Gloria”, and the English language version stars Julianne Moore, John Turturro, Michael Cera, and Holland Taylor.  It was written an directed by Sebastián Lelio, who made the original Spanish version as well.

I related to it, and I enjoyed it.Here is a divorced woman living alone, working in a meaningful job, but clearly lonely.Her 2 grown children are wrapped up in their own lives, and Gloria enjoys going out to clubs for a drink and a dance.That’s all I will tell you, because I think it’s work seeing.

2. The proliferation of healthier food choices at airports.  It’s not your grandma’s food court anymore.  Well, yes it is, but there are more options than either Caesar salad or a chicken Caesar salad.  I am pleased to report that you can buy all sorts of other salads, non-dairy, and gluten-free foods, now that we all have leaky guts and newfangled food allergies.

3. Flat and low-heeled shoes.  Doesn’t sound sexy, but it’s nice to be able to walk a good distance – let’s say 6000 steps -- without experiencing agony. I see young women wearing stilettos – even Meghan Markle or Melania Trump, and yes, their legs look great, but they cannot be comfortable.  That’s inconceivable to me.  If I could wear loafers or clogs all day, every day, I would.  You get the idea.

4. Exhibit B’s birthday.  A happy, happy experience.   We had time alone, we had meals with with various people who are close to her, and a fantastic dinner with her besties at Tallulah’s in Santa Monica.  My girl said it was the best birthday of her life.  They have a photobooth!

5. “The Investigation”, the reading of the Mueller Report (a callback to my former #5). Last week many of theater’s masters – Kevin Kline, John Lithgow, Annette Bening, Michael Shannon, and Jason Alexander, made up part of the cast of a dramatic reading at Riverside Church. The words were directly from the report, and Pulitzer Prize winning playwright (“The Kentucky Cycle”) Robert Schenkkan turned it into something incredible. John Lithgow stunned as Donald Trump. Watch it.

And here are the five things that make Shannon’s life better.

1.            Noise cancelling headphones

2.            Frank Ocean

3.            The RealReal

4.            The Real Housewives franchise

5.            Moms Demand Action volunteers

Episode 50 – with Amy Peterson and Jessica Mindich – Lisa Birnbach’s Five Things That Make Life Better for June 21, 2019

I just returned from a spectacular 8 days in Italy.  I feel so refreshed, and so lucky.  It’s true what they say:  travel is broadening – and I’m not referring to the 3 pounds I gained from eating all that spaghetti cacio e pepe, but about learning how to successfully manage in a country where English isn’t universally spoken.  You have to not make any assumptions of any kind.  People may not think the way we do, or like the way we make our ways into the world.  We were in a small town in Umbria; English was rarely heard, and my instinct was to try to speak Italian, based on little scraps of the language I know, and trying to Italianize my French.  It was primitive; occasionally it worked. 

Being an American abroad makes one think a lot about being an American; what it means to one’s self, and what it means to others. The world gets smaller, and we are all citizens of the world. Suddenly you must deal with kilometers instead of miles; of Euros instead of dollars.

As a city dweller, being in the country was a treat.  Yes, we woke to the sounds of roosters, and also woodpeckers and mourning doves.  Birdsong!  It gave our mornings a dreamy quality.   You feel away-away.  In any case, I want to thank my friend Marsha for inviting us to her place.  We enjoyed her company and that of her guests.

I’m joined today by Amy Peterson and Jessica Mindich, both former corporate women who met in Detroit and now run creative non-profits in the jewelry space. Amy’s organization is Rebel Nell and Jessica’s is Caliber Collection.

But first, here are the 5 Things that made life better for me this week.

1. A fresco. My friend Diane alerted me to the existence of a famous Piero Della Francesca fresco of the pregnant Madonna in a small town near the house where we stayed. The town, Monterchi, is walled and tiny – a population somewhere between 1-1800 inhabitants. Yet it has 2 museums. One dedicated completely to the fresco – (you don’t run into many pregnant Madonnas) and one dedicated to scales (ancient and old fashioned weights and scales). I have to confess that after the first room, I’d seen enough balancing scales for a lifetime.

One ticket gets you admission to both.  The young woman behind the counter at the latter museum said she liked living in a small town where she knew everyone and everyone knew her.  Which was great because at dinner much later that night in the little town of Anghiari, the ticket taker and I recognized one another and gave each other a warm hello.  A few people asked me who she was.  Someone I met earlier in the day.  I felt connected.  And of course, I wondered – as I always do when I’m not home – “could I live here?”

2.   One thing Tuscany and Umbria have in abundance is Jasmine.  If you haven’t gotten a whiff of that blossom lately, I urge you to find some to sniff.  It’s heaven.  It was everywhere.  I sighed with pleasure at every encounter.

3.  We met a lovely man in Rome at his elegantly simple clothing shop – one of those places where you have to touch everything.  (And I did.) Michele Am Russo spent time showing us his work, his fabrics which were extraordinary, and told us his story.  He spent a few years in America as a child when his mother owned a shop in Soho in the 1980s.  They moved back to Rome to this shop.  Now he’s in charge, and takes great pleasure in the exquisite textiles he has made in India, Japan, and at the best mills in Italy.  The store is called Bomba, the street is Via dell’Oca, and it felt like another special moment in time. 

4.  European pharmacies are the best.  First of all, the products all look exotic and appealing in their foreign packaging.  (Oh this beautiful tube of face cream is actually for your feet?). If they sell product lines you buy here at home, they are much less expensive in Europe.  And, if you need a prescription filled, there’s a chance that the medication is considered over the counter.  Note to American girls in Assisi:  Except Aderall.  They were onto you.

5.  The novel Normal People by Sally Rooney.  I had first read a short story by this very young (born in 1991!!) Irish novelist in the New Yorker in the last year.  This novel is told in a way that is both emotionally urgent and emotionally detached.  It’s a love story with a protagonist who growing up sees herself as damaged and unlovable.  She resigns herself to a life without much pleasure, save for academic success.  It spans three years.  That’s all I will say, but the author seems to understand her characters in a breathtaking way. 

And now, please welcome my two guests today, Jessica Mindich and Amy Peterson!  Two dynamic, hard-working women, who after careers as lawyers began to give back.  I can’t wait for you to meet them.

Amy’s 5 Things:

1.  My son's daycare.  They allow him to wear costumes on a regular basis which makes him happy and my mornings less stressful

2.  Podcasts.  They are an outlet and also a new way to learn on the go

3.  Daily Harvest: works for our family

4.  Running my own company and being surrounded by amazing women

5.  Wine

Jessica’s 5 Things:

1.  Being near water

2.  When my teenage sons and their friends camp out at my house

3.  Being a redhead

4.  French fries.

5.  Having the power to transform pain into hope. 

EPISODE 49 - WITH ALEX MALLICK and ADNAN KHAN - LISA BIRNBACH'S FIVE THINGS THAT MAKE LIFE BETTER FOR JUNE 14, 2019

I finally feel my age when I see young people I’ve known for a long time become their adult selves, where the choices they have made help codify them as the people they have always meant to be.  So it is with one of our guests today, Alexandra Mallick, whom I have known from the time she was a college student dating the son of very close friends of mine.  I always liked her verve and style and sass.  At one time she even worked for me while I had a daily radio show.  I knew wherever she would end up, she could make a real difference.

And now it is clear, that after a decade that included working in an art gallery, working in non-profits as a fundraiser, working for Spin, and owning an art gallery, Alex has found her mission.It is to help reform the way justice is meted out in California, it is to help youth who are incarcerated and neglected, and it is to promote restorative justice.She is my guest today along with the co-executive director of Re:Store Justice, Adnan Khan. I think you will understand why I wanted to talk with these two powerful young advocates.

1. Finding parking in Manhattan on the weekends in the summer.

2. Cotton eyelet fabric.  Cool, pretty, and a good word in Spelling Bee.

3. Hot dogs.  Don’t scream at me.  I know they’re terrible and have nitrates and filler and all that.  But in the summer, on a grill a beef or turkey hotdog is a special treat.  And I even like them with baked beans.  I’ve eaten one already over Memorial Day, and I am sure I’ll eat another before the summer is over.

4. Straw hats.  It took me years to get over my hat shyness.  I never looked good in hats and always felt like I was wearing a costume. Oh Look, Lisa thinks she’s in a production of Oklahoma.Now I wear them a lot. For shade, for my skin, and always on a long walk or at the beach.Big brim or small, I appreciate the hard work of the summer chapeau.

5. Shannon Watts. the Founder of Moms Demand Action for Gun Sense in America.

Shannon Watts is a mother of five who, prior to founding Moms Demand Action, was a stay-at-home mom and former communications executive. The day after the Sandy Hook tragedy, Shannon started a Facebook group with the message that all Americans can and should do more to reduce gun violence. The online conversation turned into a grassroots movement of Americans fighting for public safety measures that protect people from gun violence. Moms Demand Action has established a chapter in every state of the country and is part of Everytown for Gun Safety, the largest gun violence prevention organization in the country, with more than 5 million supporters. In addition to her work with Moms Demand Action, Watts is an active board member of Emerge America, one of the nation’s leading organizations for recruiting and training women to run for office.

And now, a very thoughtful five things from Alex Mallick and Adnan Khan.

1. Cappuccino (with foam art)

2. Soft Shit. Pillows, towels, goose down comforters, cozy sweaters, couches, cashmere, etc.

3. Privilegesplaining (variation of mansplaining).

4. Comedy and humor as a survival tool.

5. The idea that an individual can change things.

Episode 48 - With Lisa Grunwald - Lisa Birnbach's Five Things That Make Life Better for June 7, 2019

Hi Kids.  It’s June!  I’m wearing white jeans like it was a job requirement, and ketchup stains notwithstanding, it makes me happy.  Our guest last week, Kim France, wrote in a recent blog that she is cursed with spilling her coffee on her summer whites, but proactively carries a stain stick with her.  You can see it at her Girls of a Certain Age.com.  With this job of blogging and podding, you’d be amazed how many hours I need to put it all together.  I used to have a daily radio talk show in which I touted myself as “the best dressed woman in radio.”  Most days I’m the least dressed woman in radio, but considering there are a bajillion podcasts and that many of them originate at home, I’m sure that’s not true.  I come to our studios at The Fieldtv.com, and I assure you, I am fully clothed.

Lisa Grunwald is our guest today.  It amuses me no end that we might not have met had it not been the friendship of my ExhibitC™ with her son.  My daughter kept telling me all the similarities we shared – not the least of which is our name – careers, foreign born fathers - many friends in common. When I wrote to her,  it turns out we even went to the same sleep away camp in the Berkshires – possibly the same summer!  And now Lisa has stealthily written a novel that I read and loved.  Published next week it is called Time After Time.  You can listen to Lisa and me on my podcast - link above - (or on apple podcasts, stitcher, spotify, google play and youtube) , as we chat about her new book and talk about her five things.

Onward to the five things that made my life better this week.

1. Say Something Bunny, the play. I made reservations for this tiny, indy off off off off Broadway show when Meg Wolitzer put it in her top 5.What it is is watching a performer, the marvelous Alison Kobayashi, who in real life had to play archeologist in order to figure out who made 2audio tapes that a friend bought for her at an estate sale. And it’s so much more! There are only 20 seats in the theater and it’s a moving trip through nostalgia and a family you grow to care about.

2. Alex Trebek – I can honestly say, I have spent almost no time in my life consciously thinking about the host of Jeopardy.  I did once have a dream in which I the bride came down the aisle and was surprised and embarrassed to find that he was our officiant, I woke up after saying “What is I Do?”  But now that he’s announced his illness and has brought his huge audience with him as he bravely works during treatment for stage 4 pancreatic cancer, I am only filled with admiration for this guy.  SNL used to parody him and I don’t know what his other accomplishments are other than being handsomely paid to host a game show for years and years.  But his humility and gratitude for the support of his fans has turned me into one too.

3. Bandolier. The good news:  Two of my best friends have been wearing their cellphones like a cross-body bag for years.  At various times they recommended I get one.  They are made by a company called Bandolier.  I never wanted that much equipment, but after a couple of close calls when I almost lost my phone, I decided to try it out.  The bad news:  the Internet kind of figured that out all by itself because one day I started receiving emails and promotions about Bandolier even on Instagram, the app that costs me the most money.  Reader, I think I like it.  It makes the subway hands free.  I also like very much my old holder, which held more cards and tickets than this one, but nothing’s perfect.

4. People who respond to emails in a timely fashion.  That is becoming rare. I even enjoy a rejection email if it comes quickly after the proposal.  It just seems kind and thoughtful. Some big whigs in the media business don’t bother responding at all, whatsoever, ever.  I consider that rude or no very rude.

5. Graduation Ceremonies.  I am so touched by all the people I’ve been seeing in New York the last few weeks in mortarboards and gowns, trailed by family members and friends. I think of how hard it is to head off to school some days, when you know you’re going to have a hard day.  You know your classmate is mad at you, or you could have written a better paper, or they’ll be a popup quiz, or a head lice outbreak, or an embarrassment in gym or the locker room.  Every day is challenging.  And then there’s a ceremony to celebrate the end.  I’m tearing up.

And now, Lisa Grunwald’s Five Things:

1.  Coffee.

2.  Treasure Hunts – searching and finding.

3.  Giving presents.

4.  Finite accomplishments.

5.  Upside of the internet – connecting with people.

Episode 47 - With Kim France - Lisa Birnbach's Five Things That Make Life Better for May 31, 2019

I don’t even technically have an exhibit™ in school this semester, but my body is still hard-wired to respond appropriately to the universal school calendar.  Therefore, it feels like I’m rushing to finish up a lot of projects now, as I’m getting ready for end-of-the-year exercises.

Weird, right?  I have no exercises – not even Pilates lately.

But I digress.  I’ve been eager to speak to today’s guest, writer and editor Kim France for a while now.  She is the creator of the now mourned Lucky Magazine that I’m sure many of you remember.  And she has been writing a blog, Girls of a Certain Age since 2012.  I read it slavishly.

Five things that made my life better this week:

1.   Generosity:  Just after we finished last week’s podcast I had a V8 moment.  I forgot to mention the generosity of graduation speaker Robert F. Smith, the billionaire investor ambushing the Morehouse College graduation with his excellent news that he and his family decided to pay back every single outstanding student loan for members of the class of 2019.  That could reach as high as $40 million dollars.  Mr. Smith, a graduate of Cornell University and Columbia Business School said, "On behalf of the eight generations of my family that have been in this country, we're going to put a little fuel in your bus. This is my class, 2019. And my family is making a grant to eliminate their student loans," Smith said. "I know my class will make sure they pay this forward ... and let's make sure every class has the same opportunity going forward, because we are enough to take care of our own community."  Incidentally, Robert Smith is the first black man to sign Warren Buffet’s Giving Pledge.  Wow.  What a guy!

2. GENEROSITY:  You don’t have to be a billionaire to be a giver.  Case in point, altruist Courtney Holmes, a barber in Dubuque, Iowa, has been giving free haircuts to kids who will read to him.  That’s right.  He’s helping kids get interested in reading, in becoming better readers, and feeling like their winning something at the same time.  Kudos to Mr. Holmes, who is now receiving unsolicited donations from strangers, as well as boxes of books for the children.

3. What the Constitution Means to Me play.

I dare you to find an evening at the theater that sounds more like a homework assignment than this (more or less) One woman show, but the writer/performer, Heidi Schrek, spent her teens giving speeches with just this title at Elk lodges and Kiwanis and so on all over the northwest and midwest.  With great presentational skills and confidence she won enough money to pay for her entire college tuition.  The play is 15 year old Heidi giving one of those talks along with 48 year old Heidi of today. And today’s Heidi feels disenfranchised by the words she has come to care deeply about.  Her own feelings of disappointment and despair are pretty raw and moving.  As a bonus, everyone gets a pocket-sized copy of the Constitution.  Maybe after we read it, we should send it to Lindsay Graham or William Barr?

4. Levi’s 724 high waisted jeans.  Like buttah.  I live in jeans – something I want to talk to today’s guest Kim France about, but first my number 5.

5. Coyo non-dairy yogurt.  Hurrah!  I found it!  Something I can eat without grimacing about the lack of dairy.   I fear I won’t find it again.  It’s like all those indy bra companies that spring up online.  I don’t feel they’ll still be in business next week.

Since 2012, my guest Kim France has written and put together a great looking, and user friendly blog and shopping site called Girls of a Certain Age.  From her I’ve learned about Cocofloss, and the Israeli designer Nili Lotan.  Prior to that Kim was the founding editor of Lucky magazine – one of the few living people whom Si Newhouse allowed to start an entirely new title that ran for 5 years.

Kim France’s Five Things:

1. Pasteis de Nata (a Portuguese custard tart)

2. The band Yo La Tengo

3. The commenters on my blog, Girls of a Certain Age

4. My dogs, Sammy and Mister

5. Phoebe Waller-Bridge, creator of Killing Eve and Fleabag

Episode 46 - Lisa Birnbach's Five Things that Make Life Better for May 24, 2019

Just when I thought I’d have to keep my parka on all year, the weather changed, and so did I. I put that thing in the back of my coat closet, sorted out my cold weather clothes, got strict with myself about what I didn’t need, wear, or like any more (not to mention what didn’t fit). And I gave it all away. I thought about thanking the clothes that had served me well, but let’s face it; didn’t I serve those clothes too? Who should be thanking whom? I wore them; they didn’t wear me. You know who gets my thanks? Doctors, nurses, servicemen and women, police officers, firemen and women, and teachers. They spark gratitude, if not joy. Goodbye old clothes! May they suit another woman and make her happy.

HELLO SPRING/SUMMER.  OR AS BARBRA STREISAND SAID IN FUNNY GIRL:

 There’s a 14 second “Hello Gorgeous” clip from Funny Girl on line.

1)    

Simon.  In personal family news, my g g g grandson is out of the hospital and just his mere existence is providing joy to our extended clan.  When I spoke to his mom earlier today I could hear his tiny little coos and grunts, and whispers, and I have to say they are delicious!  These sounds couldn’t be replicated anywhere but in nature.  No instrument or computer can come close.  

2)   Tradition.  We celebrated the baby’s bris this week.  As my longtime friend Elise said to my happy tears, “it’s a tsunami of emotion, isn’t it?” It was and I barely knew what hit me. But let me say this:  we held it at my mother’s apartment, where my brothers and I were raised.  I was so grateful that my mother could witness this milestone.  And tremendously moved by the outpouring of her friends, all of whom had attended my own Exhibit A’s™ bris.  They connected us all back to my dad, whom I miss every day and would have been so proud.  The point of traditions; they link you back to your past.  It was an epic experience for me.  I only wish that #ExhibitB and my brother Norman had been there.

3)   Animals. We capped the night off at a benefit for ANIMAL HAVEN, a great rescue and rehabilitation for pets in New York.  The turnout was huge.  It is clear that people have a large place in their hearts for animals.   I know quite a few individuals who seem to prefer animals to humans.  I would never go that far. I love dogs so much.  I can’t wait until we have another.  

4)   Via.  This is a car-sharing app that is way cheaper than Uber and Lyft most of the time. It’s even possible to get a private ride.  When I was commuting south and east to the hospital to see the bebe, it was for more affordable to go by Via.  Also, going from upper west side to lower east side took about as long as it takes to get to Kennedy Airport or Greenwich, CT from where I live.  CRAZY.

5)    Jennifer Hudson singing the theme song for the Jeffersons live.  Full of joy and nostalgia and obviously lots of rehearsing and preparation. I am not a Jeffersonsologist, but I think the theme song to that Norman Lear show was prerecorded, as all theme songs were.  I only saw that single clip, introduced by Jimmy Kimmel and Norman Lear, of Jennifer Hudson shimmying and singing her spectacular voice.  It made me happy.  And what about 96 year old Norman Lear?  Am I right?

Have a great week.  Be cool and act natural.

Episode 45 - with Caroline Hirsch - Lisa Birnbach’s Five Things That Make Life Better for May 17, 2019

You know the portmanteau for the classic breakfast & lunch is brunch, right?  Now a word all on its own.  In my family, when we sometimes had pancakes or omelets for dinner, the exhibits ™ called it “brinner.”  Today I am coining the term Sprinter,™ for Spring that feels like Winter.  Save for one heavenly day, it’s been a dreary season.  I want to put my parka away, but I don’t dare.

Never mind that.  Today our guest is Caroline Hirsch, the sleek and chic comedy impresario, and proprietor of New York’s premiere omedy club Caroline’s, and the/a producer of the new film,  “Ask for Jane.”

Before she joins us, let’s get to the five things that made my life better this week.

1) The staff and doctors of the Neonatal Intensive Care Unit at NYU Hospital.  They took swift care of my son’s son, and kept him in their purview for the last week.  I wasn’t allowed inside, but they helped fortify my kids’ moods when they were low, and now, have released the darling bambino.  I couldn’t be more grateful.

2) Doris Day.  You may not know who she was.  Then again, if you’re part of this universe you probably do.  She was a wonderful actress and singer in the movies in the 50s-70s.  In the 1960s she was the number one box office star for four years in a row. Bigger than special effects. She was everything from an Alfred Hitchcock blond in The Man Who Knew Too Much to a singing advertising executive in “Lover Come Back”.  Her voice was honey; I can hear it even now.  She was cute in a realistic Kristen Bell sort of way, freckled, button-nosed, and slim.   She could look gorgeous, but she had attainable beauty, nothing exotic or incomprehensible.  She lived for 97 years and devoted the last 20 or more years of her life to animals, and particularly dogs.   If you’ve never seen her oeuvre, check it out.   

3) Went to see David Sedaris give a reading over the weekend.  I’ve enjoyed his work in The New Yorker over the years, but I wanted to see a writer in command of a 700 seat theater.  It’s a rare skill to be a writer who can sell out a reading, let alone hundreds of nights a year.  (His anecdotes from his journal mostly concerned book signings and readings from Atlanta to London.). I wanted to see the magic.  And it’s really just him, a very good story writer, who takes you on a couple of unexpected turns before the ride ends exactly where it began.  He held the audience at Town Hall in the palm of his hands.  I have a feeling I was the last one to see David Sedaris perform.  Have you?  What do you think?

4) The one pretty day we had, I enjoyed walking amidst the lush greenery and shrubs, and hearing birds chirping their heads off.  It’s always so unexpected for me in the midst of a busy city to hear birds, particularly the comforting trill of the mourning dove.  Nature:  it’s still here, by some miracle!

5) Bill Nye the Science Guy.  I like him and I admire him.  He’s been making science fun for years, something that Mr. Milliken failed to do when I was in biology in the 9th grade.  In fact, I was completely turned off of science before I finished high school, but as an adult I find myself reading the Science section of the New York Times every week, and thoroughly too.  (When you’re taught that you are “bad” at a subject in school, you give it up.  Turns out I was possibly taught by unskilled teachers.). Bill Nye does more than make science fun.  He reminds us all that science is real, that it matters, and it’s not some woo woo liberal hokum.

And now, Caroline Hirsch’s 5 Things:

1.  Her two three year old dogs Stella and Sybil – that she still calls her puppies.

2.  Her home on Long Island.

3.  Her art collection – The Nevelson piece in particular.

4.  Playing golf.

5.  Her work.

And number 6 – Colleen, her personal trainer for 20+ years.

Episode 44 - With Lori Gottlieb - Lisa Birnbach’s Five Things That Make Life Better for May 10, 2019

This has been a big week for me and for my family.  But before I begin my list of five, let me just say that I am grateful to all of you who enjoy this blog and the podcast, and when you write to me about things you enjoyed, things you didn’t, send me information you think I need, or introduce me to a new reader or listener – it makes me happy and fulfilled.  This was always meant to be a conversation between us, even when I record my podcast without a guest.  Today however I have a guest I am uncommonly excited to chat with.

Photo credit: Shlomit Levy Bard

It’s Lori Gottlieb, a noted therapist in Los Angeles and author of the new New York Times bestselling book, Maybe You Should Talk to Someone.

Here are my 5 things that made my life better this week.

1) Baby Simon.  My son and his wife welcomed a son Monday night.  A new whole person!  His name is Simon.  He is 20 inches long. He is darling.  It is a thing so different from what I expected to see my first baby, my Exhibit A™ holding his baby.  Zounds!  It is strange and wonderful and a total surprise (though I had 40 weeks to prepare for this vision).

2) Baby Simon is staying in the hospital this week to ensure his lungs are working at full capacity.  We have all been pretty stressed about it, but I need to say how fully I’ve seen my son grow into his role as father: loving, worried, getting all the information he could from the doctors, and being there for his wife and us all.  My daughter in law has a child from an earlier marriage, so she already had motherhood down, but my Exhibit has overnight become a different man.  I regret that it was the worst fears that changed him, but I believe the joy he’ll have when they can take the baby home will outweigh the fears they have now.  (And though he is an extremely talented writer/director/performer, if he wants to go to medical school, I wouldn’t be disappointed.)

3) My family has come together in a new way too.  My other exhibits have been fully engaged and helpful, my brothers and their wives have called their doctor friends to get more information to reassure us.  I am so grateful to them.

4) My daughter in law has been a rock.  Though Simon rearranged his mother’s abdomen, she has been a great sport and a great mother to her 3 day old son.  (Simon was born on May 6, along with Archie Mountbatten-Windsor and Amy Schumer’s son.)

5)   The book I’ve read this week in between everything else, Maybe You Should Talk To Someone, is like talking with a smart, compassionate friend.  It’s been helpful to me.  I recommend it highly, especially to anyone who wonders if she or he is stuck in patterns that are not helpful in the long run.  And I am thrilled to welcome Lori Gottlieb, its author to our show today.

Photo credit: Shlomit Levy Bard

Lori’s five things:

1) Emotional generosity

2) Broken-in sneakers

3) Meandering conversations

4) A specific cartoon in the New Yorker (listen to the podcast)

5) Unexpected hugs from my teenager

Episode 43 - With The New York Times puzzle editors, Deb Amlen and Sam Ezersky - Lisa Birnbach’s Five Things That Make Life Better for May 3, 2019

I have a great show this week, featuring two of the great minds who create, edit, and write about the puzzles in the New York Times!  Wordplay Columnist Deb Amlen will be here, along with her colleague, Associate Puzzles Editor Sam Ezersky.

Over the weekend we got to attend the 35th anniversary of one of my favorite comedies – “This is Spinal Tap.”  The Tribeca Film Festival brought Director Rob Reiner to the stage for introductions, and then the movie, which I’ve seen oodles of times on tv, unspooled.  It was the first time I saw “Spinal Tap” on a big screen since it first came out.  Thirty-five years ago seems like such a long time ago.  It was 1984.  I was barely an adult.

Ronald Reagan was president, Margaret Thatcher became the British prime minister, and “Cheers” was a popular tv show.  Sally Ride was heralded as the first woman astronaut in space, and Ron Howard entered the big leagues as a director with “Splash.”

Those seem like ancient, innocent times.  With this I talk about the five great things that made my life better this week.

1) Besides seeing a favorite and still funny movie, the men of Spinal Tap (Michael McKean, Christopher Guest, and Harry Shearer) performed their heavy metal music acoustically, as 70 year old men in sportscoats.  There was a real charm to it.  Especially fun was when they brought Elvis Costello to join them for “Give Me Some Money,” which he sang with punk brio. The whole evening was wonderful.

2) Long walks over the weekend.  One had no goal whatsoever, another was a strategic walk with errands to run along the way.  Doesn’t a walk clear your head and help you think?  It does for me.

3) My first baby shower.  I hosted it for my daughter-in-law, a term I’m still getting used to.  I decided on tea sandwiches (and cakes, cookies, cheeses, and fruit salad).  I had forgotten how much I love Arnold’s thin sandwich bread.  With this bread, anyone can make epic sandwiches.  Egg salad, tuna salad, chicken salad, tomato and cucumber sandwiches were all yummy.   I had some of my best friends there, as did my daughter in law.  I continue to find wonder in feeling close to this young woman who has entered  our family.

4) Amarcord vintage clothing store in Williamsburg (Brooklyn).  ExhibitB ™ saw the store windows while she was here and wanted us to look inside.  We found a riot of prints and a lot of cool pieces from the 60’s and 70’s and enjoyed the encyclopedic knowledge of the owner, Marco.

5) Robert Mueller.   He’s back!  We need him again.  I’m going to assume that Mr. Mueller will testify in front of Congress in the very near future.

Deb Amlen

Deb’s 5 Things:

1) My family. I know it's corny, but it's true. My kids are my greatest teachers. They've taught me about everything, from how to love unconditionally to how to be spontaneously creative. Also, why the DVR doesn't record my programs if I don't hit "Save." I'm also engaged to a wonderful man who makes me smile and laugh every day.

2) Food. Doesn't food just taste great? I will happily eat anything, except for cottage cheese, liver, insects and anything that still has the head on. I don't like my food looking at me. Also, since you asked, I am of the theory that French fries are made specifically to be ketchup delivery systems. Unless they are sweet potato fries, in which case they are mayo delivery systems. And even then, it has to be Kewpie mayo, a Japanese brand which puts other brands that shall go nameless to shame. O.K., maybe I'm a little picky.

3) Other people's life stories. People are endlessly fascinating. I tell stories all the time on Wordplay -- my most recent one was about how I was once asked to train a pot-bellied pig to be a service animal -- and it's lovely when readers reciprocate. I think that when people tell you their stories, it's a real sign of trust, and I'm honored that they extend that trust to me.

4) My job. I have the best job in the world. I have the privilege of trying to make people laugh and think. I get to help them learn a skill that they really want to have, and I also get to work with some of the smartest, funnest people in journalism.

5) Those endorphins that smack you in the back of the head right after an intense work out. Better than any drugs you could get your hands on, Officer.

Sam Ezersky

Sam’s Five Things:

1) My support system. This just goes without saying; I wouldn't be where I am today without the love of those around me. I'm fortunate to have been raised by a family that has nourished me, encouraged me and challenged me to be my very best. I have a healthy network of friends of ranging backgrounds, several of whom I could trust with my life. And then there's anyone who has offered me voluntary praise or guidance over the years, regardless of context, which has given me the passion to keep listening and learning as I follow my heart. I really am grateful for it all.

2) My puzzles. Duh. They're my world. I half-seriously joke that I have quite the unhealthy work-life balance, but puzzles really are on my mind 24/7. I check tomorrow's Spelling Bee puzzle every night on my iPhone while lying in bed. When I lack signal on those long-ish subway rides, I'm mocking up crossword grids around words and phrases that are fresh in my head (some of which, let's just say, you couldn't publish in the New York Times Crossword). Even when I don't want to think about puzzles, my brain is still instantly counting the number of letters in things I see and say. Oh, look, NUMBER OF LETTERS is a "15"!

3) My headphones. Whereas many can't leave the house without their wallets or car keys, I refuse to set foot outside my apartment without my headphones. I need my music everywhere, whether it's Pink Floyd, They Might Be Giants, Nas or Kendrick Lamar. I've had these red Klipsch earbuds for several years now. Despite misplacing them numerous times -- once leaving them behind in L.A.! -- I've always managed to get them back.

4) My 'ball. I'm a shameless sports junkie; my Twitter is primarily used for puzzle purposes, but I'm never afraid to go crazy after a UVA Basketball national championship victory or mash a retweet to show love to the Baltimore Ravens' latest draft picks. Here's hoping my New York Knicks and Baltimore Orioles can be at least somewhat fun to root for next year! These past seasons have been painful.

5) My GPS. This wouldn't be up here even two years ago, but I've developed a newfound love of exploration by way of aimless walks around town. When I first moved to Manhattan, I'd set out -- with my headphones, of course -- on a lazy Saturday afternoon toward Central Park without a real destination in mind. Sometimes I could end up all the way downtown. Or cross into Brooklyn. Who knows. But my subway map could always get me back, and I've since opened up my GPS from time to time just to re-examine the layout of Manhattan, or even pore over another city I've yet to visit. I'm not sure why this fascinates me so much; I must clearly have an interest in interlocking grids.

Stay cool and act natural!